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Invest in Yourself: 37 Best Ways to Transform Your Life

Who’s got the time to ‘invest in yourself’?

Life is so busy, right?

How is it even possible to find the time to ‘invest in yourself’ when I can’t even find the time to chill out and catch up on Netflix?

Ahh, stop right there and do me a favor! 😉 Go into the settings on your smartphone. If it’s an iPhone like mine, they’ll be a screentime option that tells you how many hours and minutes per day your screen is active.

In other words, it tells you how much are you looking at your phone – if it’s anything like mine; then it could be around 2-4 hours per day (3h 49m to be exact… sheesh that’s too much, I need to delete all my useless, but strangely addictive apps).

Let’s average that down to 3 hours a day on my iPhone; that’s 21 hours per week and 84 hours per month. Enough time to do EVERYTHING on this list, literally. 

Or you might not have a smartphone at all, in which guess disregard everything I just said 😉

Time flies by so fast – the good news is… you’re the pilot!

My point is that everyone has the same 24 hours in a day; it’s up to you to decide how you prioritize those hours and what you do with them.

Remember, the social media platforms have invested billions working out how to keep eyeballs on screens – because facilitating this addiction represents advertising dollars from the big brands, which keeps the money rolling in. 

Is it necessarily the best way for you to spend your time? 

I don’t think you’d be reading this post unless you wanted to get some ideas about the best ways to invest in yourself. 

You don’t have to do everything on this list; even if you just do 2 or 3 items, trust me, you’ll start to change your life.

We’ve all got family and friends to keep up with, and job and life pressures can get in the way. But think carefully about how you’re spending your free time because it might surprise you how much of it is spent doing things that aren’t really adding any value to your life. 

Let’s get to it: I’ve scrawled the internet and reflected on the things that personally have helped me and a few things that I’d also like to focus on in the future. So here are the top ways to invest in yourself and improve your life:  

Invest in Yourself: Be healthy, be happy

The most important thing you can do to invest in yourself is prioritize your health, fitness, and nutrition. We literally are what we eat! And we’re evolved. Look at ‘us’ – we are literally all limbs with a body in the middle.


It doesn’t really matter what you do; just get yourself moving. 

The benefits of exercise are far too numerous to write down here, but they include weight, improved mood, energy boost, better sleep, socialization, etc.

These factors should persuade you that exercise is worth it, but if you need a little extra push, you can even get rewarded for working out with Sweatcoin. Register today and let it run in the background.

Although it takes a long time to build up sweatcoins, I set it and forget it, and I’ve had free headphones (to use in the gym) and other free offers and goodies from the app. 

But exercise goes above and beyond just physical changes; it helps you live longer, better, makes your heart, and improves your mental and emotional functioning. 

Working out five days a week, going to a regular class, joining a team sport, or starting a solo sport – to get good, they all need you to apply consistency, determination, and commitment. These are all qualities that will transfer over into other areas of your life.

So get moving, invest in yourself – find out works for you, a gym, a class, or a sport. Whatever it is, commit, and if its something new to you, makes sure you get the right guidance and education first.  

Personally, I’m a little more introverted, so I prefer the gym, solo sports, like swimming, or one-on-one sports where you are pitted against an opponent. Trust me, it will turn you into a stronger person, so go for it!

Eat Clean; sort out your nutrition and learn to cook

Of course, a good exercise regime goes hand in hand with good nutrition – and the best thing is that you don’t even need to pay for this information in our times.

I follow a bunch of Healthy Foodie Influencers on Instagram… and it’s amazing; they are literally giving you all this content and food inspiration for free.  

Just make sure their specialism isn’t cakes and sugar, and their focus is more on healthy foods. 

Once you start eating clean, your blood pressure may decrease, you’ll lower your blood glucose levels, reducing blood sugar fluctuations – this will increase your mood, brain, and heart health and ensure you have a stronger foundation to build the rest of your life. 

When you eat clean, you feel better. By buying the right types of food in your weekly shop, you are literally taking the time to invest in yourself from a cellular level. 

That means every meal comes packed with vegetables, greens, healthy fiber, and lean protein – you can adapt things as you go. 

But remember that every time you eat a sugary snack or unhealthy meal, your body goes into hyperdrive to suck those calories into your fat stores. It’s how we evolved to get through the leaner times ahead.

In other words, it’s perfectly natural to put on weight; that drive is innate. You need to counter that with your own disciplined program of healthy eating and exercise. 

Go for medical and dental visits

For a long time, I didn’t bother going to the dentist – I just thought my teeth looked Ok, what’s the problem!?

When I eventually got round to it, I was hammered with a 5k bill! A large chunk of that included straightening my teeth which had grown a bit wonky.

But I was happy to pay for it; because you can easily spend three times that on a car and I can’t think of any better reason to invest in yourself than your health. Especially when it has an impact on the way you look.

The moral of the story: keep up with your visits to the Doctor and Dentist. You don’t need to go every month, but a regular checkup is worth it to make sure everything is ticking over once in a while. 

Cut out alcohol

Whether you drink alcohol or not is a highly personal decision to make. 

I don’t think anyone should feel forced into making a decision, but it helps to look at things objectively.

If you google ‘most harmful drug,’ the search results will overwhelmingly show you alcohol as causing the most harm in society and at an individual personal level. 

And not by a small margin, either. The Economist reports that the Global Commission on Drug Policy found ‘Alcohol came out as the most harmful, followed by heroin and crack cocaine. Psychedelic “party” drugs, including ecstasy, LSD, and mushrooms, were deemed mostly benign—with harm scores less than half that of tobacco—despite being lumped with cocaine and heroin in the UN’s classification system.’

invest in yourself - cut back, or cut out, alcohol

So alcohol is more dangerous than Heroin and Crack cocaine?

Ok, there are obviously other variables, such as the fact that alcohol is legal and has widespread use. 

But should it really be better, the devil, you know? Remember, this post is about taking the time to invest in yourself. And the nature of alcohol is that one drink leads to another… and another…

From my own experience, I can confidently say that when I drank, all of the risky or hairy experiences happened after a night out. 

Objectively speaking, I do not think the risk is worth it. And when I’ve gone out sober, with drunk friends – I realized it was never the ‘best night eve..’ It is pretty much always people ending up drunk and talking rubbish! 

I also have a family member who developed an alcohol dependency, which cemented things for me. It’s taken a long time, but for me personally, I see alcohol consumption as something that can ultimately lend itself to more destructive behaviors than otherwise.    

On something like alcohol, which is highly pervasive in society, is always a personal decision. If you decide to go teetotal, which means cutting it out completely, that can often mean not hanging around so much with friends who continue to drink.

It’s got to be up to you, but I definitely think it is worth looking at things objectively to consider if it’s worth it when you want to take more time to invest in yourself.

Focus on healthy activities and hobbies

If you decide to cut out alcohol, you’ll soon notice that you have more time and money in your pocket. 

Really, all you need to invest in yourself is time and money. 

One of the best things you do is change your focus to more healthy activities and hobbies. 

Ever thought about rock climbing or even hill walking? Perhaps you might like to challenge yourself to a three-day 300-mile bike ride?

Invest in yourself, invest in your health

Take up a sport or start an exercise class at your local gym. Depending on what your goal is, there is something for everyone. 

Check out be summary of the best classes for weightloss

Or you could try wild-water-swimming. Even it’s just a game of frisbee in the park or signing up to a local dance or yoga class; once you get started, you’ll realize the benefits, the social opportunities, and the fun that you can have when you switch your focus to a healthy style of life. 

Sleep and wake up earlier

There’s nothing quite like getting up at a time of day when everyone else is fast asleep in bed. 

You’ve got the whole world to yourself, or so it seems. 

And research suggests that people who wake up early tend to go to bed earlier and enjoy longer, better quality sleep.

For most human history, our ancestors rose with sunrise and went to sleep at sunset. This meant our body clocks were in sync with the circadian rhythms of the planet. Circadian rhythms are physical, mental, and behavioral changes that follow a 24-hour cycle. These natural processes respond primarily to light and dark and affect most living things, including us. 

When your sleep patterns are more in-sync (or as close as possible) to the natural movements and dance of the planet and our sun, your body will respond accordingly, allowing you to be more alert and productive in your waking hours.

Invest in yourself by investing a decent amount of time in quality sleep. 

Get Some R and R (Rest and Relaxation)

Ahh, a good old R and R day. Total bliss.

Many of the items on this list are about being productive because that’s really one of the quickest ways to invest in yourself effectively. After all, developing your outlook, skillset and experience require it. 

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But having a relaxo, lazy, non-committal, do-nothing day from time to time is just as important. It provides you with a chance to reset and reflect, which is essential when you want to invest in yourself.

I’m not talking about spending the day on social media or writing down a journal of reflections. It’s a lazy day, a time to rest; perhaps take a bath, meditate, go for a stroll around the park or do a bit of reading. 

Having a lazy day was always so difficult for me growing up because my parents, my father especially, insisted that time should always be spent productively. It meant that there was always a certain amount of guilt attached to doing nothing. 

Now I appreciate that doing nothing is a way to decompress from the world. Shut it out, if only for a few hours. 

Be by yourself and enjoy your own company. 

Don’t push yourself too hard

It can be tempting to go at a hundred miles an hour when you start something new. 

Things rarely change overnight plus all of the good qualities, such as commitment and consistency, come with applying yourself over time. But the risk is that you won’t see results as quickly as you’d hoped, lose interest and give up. Remember slow, and steady wins the race. 

Don’t push yourself too hard to begin because it will be easier to develop a routine when you go at a comfortable pace. 

Invest in Yourself: Personal Development

Watch your mindset

Mindset is tricky to get right; after all, that is your mindset?

Let’s look at it from a survivalist point of view and how a positive mindset is a particularly human trait.

For every species in the world, it’s a zero-sum game: I mean that success generally depends on the misfortune of another living thing. The mantra is “I eat you. Therefore, I survive.”

It’s a dog-eat-dog world, in which only the competitive and aggressive survive!

But humans have changed this mantra (but we don’t always remember it). The evolution of capitalism has created a new mantra:

I provide (help) you with something. You provide (help) me with something, and we both profit. It’s a win-win!

It’s so easier to fall back into the survivalist, competitive mindset. We all do it; it’s part of our baser nature; call it basic instincts.

But one of the key things that separate humans from the natural world and which accounts for success is the ability to corporate and help each other. 

Always remember that; it’s the underlying secret behind every successful business. People think business is a ruthless game that only benefits the elites, but that’s simply not true. Capitalism and business have enriched more people, globally and albeit at the expense of the natural world, than any other ideology in history. We can all win. 

Watch your words

You might be thinking that a mindset is impossible to change; it’s just there. It’s what you think.

But that’s not true. The easiest way to change your mindset is to change your words. 

Remember, we’re the only species that uses complex language. And our brains are a bit like computers – when we change the programming (the language), we can change the software (the brain).

That might be a fairly simple take on things; but another way to illustrate this concept is to quote an ancient Chinese philosopher, Lao Tzu:

“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”

Lao Tzu, Chinese Philosopher

Recognize and break bad habits

Sometimes it can be difficult to recognize bad habits because they are ingrained in your daily life.

Habits are the backbone of daily life. They’re so natural that they can feel immovable, immutable – just something that happens. 

But if you take the time to pause, reflect, and then think about all the ways you want to invest in yourself and improve your life, you can start to change things. 

For example, recognizing and breaking toxic money habits can really transform your life when it comes to your finances. 

Check out my post on the 9 Toxic Money Habits you need to change to transform your life.

Toxic habits can become ingrained in any aspect of your life; health, diet, relationships. The key is to take the time to reflect and decide what you need to change to invest in yourself.  

Get organized and declutter your stuff

That ancient Greek Guy, Socrates (also the founding father of Western Philosophy), once said:

“The Secret Of Happiness, You See, Is Not Found In Seeking More, But In Developing The Capacity To Enjoy Less.”

Socrates, Ancient Greece

Believe it or not, the desire to accumulate stuff is in your genes – we are evolved hunter-gatherers – and that means, more than any other species, the desire to ‘gather’ is innate. 

But in the modern world, this leads to clutter overload. 

Once you get organized, you’ll feel calmer, more in control, and you’ll really appreciate the stuff that you do have. 

Check out my post on Minimalism and why living with less can help you be more content.

Watch Less TV and News 

Ok, it might be controversial to say ‘watch less news’ – after all, surely being informed about the world is important too, well understand what’s going on.

My issue with the ‘news’ as it is today is this: it’s overwhelming! News is on a 24/7 cycle that literally screams at you constantly about all of the horrible things going on in the world. It’s not healthy to be exposed to horror, war, terrorism (you get the picture) almost constantly.

There’s very little you can personally do about it also lends itself to a sense of powerlessness.

Over time that could easily impact your mental health. And I find when I cut out or back on the news, I feel less depressed. 

When it comes to streaming platforms, I’m not going to lie; there are many very high-quality TV available. But how many times have you watched a series and thought’ meh’ at the end of it?

These things can be 15 episodes long at an hour an episode. Listen, no one is saying don’t watch your favorite TV show – catching up with a group of characters and seeing what next can be a great way to relax after a busy day.

Just cut back on the streaming platforms. You really don’t need seven streaming subscriptions. Pick one, stick with it, limit your TV watching to an hour per day, and invest in yourself with all the new time you have. 

Give it a go!

Read positive websites, apps, books or eBooks

As human beings go, we’re really not that complicated. 

Invest in yourself - read positive, books and websites

It kind of helps to think of our brains as being like computers. Through the data we input and the language we use, we can program them to help us achieve a certain outcome. 

Let me give you an example from my own life: I was flat broke in my mid-twenties. Like many people that age, I was too busy socializing and spending money and time or pointless, useless things like going out rather than thinking about improving my own life and opportunities. 

It culminated when I slowly slipped into significant debt, and eventually, debt collectors got involved. You can read more about my own story with debt here

After that experience, I decided I didn’t ever want to have a lack of money, or financial insecurity, pose a risk to my wellbeing. It wasn’t like I just wanted to be rich because I am quite a frugal, cautious person, but I wanted the freedom, independence, and security that good finances bring. 

So I started changing the websites, apps, books, and blogs that I read.

I bought dozens of financial self-help books, and slowly, learning from the experts, I gradually started to change the way I think about money and investments. 

The small investment in these books has paid off many times over – I didn’t take the time to learn from the experts, then I wouldn’t have had a clue about what I was doing (just a desire to have property and stock investments) and let’s be honest desire doesn’t get you anywhere. You need to educate yourself. 

It’s not an overnight success story; it’s taken me the best part of a decade to build up an investment portfolio consisting of flats, holiday lets, and HMOs as well as a significant stock investment portfolio – but the sooner you start changing the information you consume on a day to day basis, the sooner you can make the changes that will really transform your life.

Don’t spend all day checking your socials and watching funny pet videos; be strategic about how you spend your spare time.  

Take pride in your appearance 

If you start working out and going to the gym, you will begin to look better. Trust me on that one. 

Take pride in your appearance; keep yourself and your home tidy, well organized, and smart.

I’m not saying wear a suit or skirt; you should wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. But you can still look good in a hoody – as long as you keep yourself well-groomed. 

Practice an attitude of gratitude

I’ve noticed that people generally tend to be positive or negative about life. I even see it in my own family. 

Invest in yourself: practice an attitude of gratitude

Don’t get wrong; being cynical from time to time is important; it helps you to spot potential gimmicks and frauds and can keep you aware of things. But when you find yourself responding to everything by first thinking of the problems, it might be time to watch your mindset a little more closely. 

After all, your mindset isn’t some random concoction of thoughts; it’s how you choose to look at the world. 

Be grateful for the small things in life.

Life is a total lottery – the odds of being alive, of you being you, are One in Four Hundred Trillion.

Just think about that for a moment; it’s almost statistically impossible to be well alive! And yet here you are! Are you going to spend the miracle of life-consuming online content that does nothing for you, or will you invest in yourself and your life!? 

Have fun

Have fun, chillout, enjoy yourself – relax.

Whatever ‘fun’ is for you, make sure you spend some downtime – away from doing productive things – and have some fun. 

Check out this guide for fun things to do at night. 

Meditate and practice mindfulness

Meditation is a great way to destress from the daily grind of life. 

Invest inn yourself - practice mindfulness and meditation

After all, how often do we actually try to bring our thoughts under control?

If you have difficulty controlling racing thoughts or getting to sleep at night, try cutting out caffeine. Yep, go cold turkey.

If you’ve been drinking coffee and tea your entire adult life, you’ve probably never experienced life without the stimulated filter of caffeine. Remember, it’s a stimulant. It can stay in your body for a long time. 

For the other benefits of meditation and mindfulness, check out my guide 

Live in the moment

I set up this blog to learn to live in the moment, hence the name, Live in the Beat.

But I soon realized I wasn’t really qualified to instruct people how to live more mindfully. And instead, the blog went in a different direction. 

Living mindfully is still a journey that I’m on, but the things that gave me the time and freedom to explore were more closely associated with money, time, and freedom, which is why this blog is mostly focused on those things. 

You can’t learn to live in the moment if you never have any time to live in the moment. 

Focus on your financial freedom, and once you can shake off the shackles of corporate employment, you’ll have all the time to explore being present and really experiencing the world as life intends you to. 

Read more: 12 Secrets, Tips, and Tricks to Living Life In The Moment.

Stop procrastinating

I once read that there are no such things as dilemmas, in the sense that we always know what we want to do.

When you really drill down to it, you don’t have indecision; you have guilt about the decision you’ve already made – What will other people think? What are the risks? How will this make me look?

But the problem with this so-called ‘guilt’ disguised as procrastination is that it’s just wasting time. And when you want to invest in yourself, time is a precious commodity. 

Learn to be confident in your decisions – it’s your life, live in the way you want. 

Manage your time and set goals

Managing your time is key to getting things done. 

After all, it’s so easy to sit on your phone / social media / Netflix, and suddenly, 4 hours have gone by. But has that time changed your life in any way? 

Keep daily lists, write down where you want to be by the end of the year and what you want to achieve.

Write a bucket list – because time goes by quickly, and it’s important for you to think about how you want to spend it and what you want to achieve. 

Read more: Ultimate Bucket List Ideas.

Love yourself

Whatever your personal circumstances and the background and life you have, there is one thing you really have to learn to do: Love Yourself. 

Nothing else in this list can happen unless you truly love yourself because why else would you want to change your life unless you truly thought you were worth it?

Sometimes we have negative people in our lives; sometimes, we don’t have the same life chances as other people – it can be difficult to accept an alternate truth if someone criticizes you or tells you that you are worthless. 

But the only person who can change that situation is you.

Before you start to make practical changes, remove negative influences from your life and replace them with positive ones, you must first learn to love yourself. 

There are always opportunities in the world; you just need to believe in yourself, love yourself and understand you deserve to succeed just as much as anyone else. 

Invest in Yourself: Skill Up 

Develop New Skills and Expand your knowledge

Just in case it wasn’t obvious already…. The best thing you can do to invest in yourself is develop new skills and expand your knowledge. 

For skills relating specifically to your finances, check out my post about developing High-Income Skills.

It’s what successful people constantly do. If you don’t seek to learn, evolve, and expand your knowledge constantly, you may be left behind in a constantly changing world.

And the learning opportunities are broader than ever. You can enroll in a local college, online classes, sign up for a talk, watch YouTube or TED Talks.

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Learn a Language

One of the best ways to change your outlook on life is to learn a new language. Why? 

Because when you learn a new language, you learn a new way of looking at the world; you learn a new perspective that has been shaped by hundreds, if not thousands, of years of culture based on the language that evolved alongside it. 

Mastering a new language also has other benefits; it allows you to travel and communicate more easily, and it helps to develop your brain uniquely. It can enhance problem-solving skills, improve memory creative thinking, and even stave off Alzheimer’s and dementia. 

I use Pimsleur Language Learning to learn Spanish – and it’s great! They teach you based on a learning process that mimics how we learn languages as children. 

Challenge yourself and Measure results

If you really hate your job and you’re not happy with where you are at professionally… challenge yourself!

Give yourself a year to change your life and go for it.

Time flies by… the good news is, you’re the pilot!

The only person who can change things is you, so write down a list of all the thighs you want to change, the challenges they involve, and start thinking about how you can change your life. Today!

Don’t forget to reflect on things so that you can measure results and see how things have changed as your progress. 

Start a blog

One of the best things you can do to challenge yourself is to start your own blog. This acts as a record of all of your achievements; plus, if it’s a niche blog, you’ll be able to help others. 

Check out my guide in starting your own blog.  

Don’t worry about being original; just focus on trying something new, and remember, there are tons of ways to be creative.

I recently bought an apartment to rent on Airbnb for the holiday-let sector. Dressing it and sorting out the interiors was a hugely creative (and expensive) project for me. But I enjoyed it; I wasn’t necessarily throwing paint on paper, but in its own way, it was creative.

And the same goes for anything else you might try: cooking, interiors, design, etc.

Creativity isn’t a result; its a process.

Invest in Yourself: Money Matters

Money is the single thing that controls your life more than anything else. 

I’m not saying it is the most important thing, but when it comes down to the type of home you live in, the food you buy, and the quality of your life… money matters!

People get confused about prioritizing money; they think that love is more important and that prioritizing money has negative connotations – but it doesn’t really work like that.

Saying that love is more important than money is like saying your arms are more important than your legs. You need them both! They are not mutually exclusive. So forget the negative connotations and invest in yourself by improving your financial situation. 

Improve your financial literacy

The only way you can really invest in yourself to improve your finances is to improve your financial literacy.

This just means your understanding of finances, how doing money works, and managing money in relation to your own financial situation. 

Start following the steps in this guide, including expanding your knowledge by consuming books and blogs relating to financial literacy. 

In the meantime, check out my post: 12 Steps to Financial Freedom.

Explore new income sources

Once you’ve increased your financial literacy, you need to put it to good use. 

And the best way to improve your finances is to establish new incomes sources. 

There are only five physical ways you can make money:

  1. Salary
  2. Investments
  3. Rental income
  4. Interest
  5. Business

But within those categories, there are literally thousands of different ways you can make money.

Here are 47 of the Best Passive Income Sources you can find online to get you started. 

Get Out of Debt

It can be difficult to think about making money when struggling with debt. 

Student debt

This is why dealing with debt can be one of the most important things you can do to invest in yourself. 

Debt, in and of itself, is not bad. It’s simply a tool – it’s how that tool is deployed and who controls the debt that can really affect your life.

Learn the difference between good debt, and bad, in my ultimate guide: Dealing With Debt and What to Do When Your Finances are in a Mess

Invest your money

No one really teaches you how to manage your money, let alone invest your money (unless you have very enlightened parents). This is why so many people are clueless when it comes to investing their money which, ultimately, can help them improve their life chances. 

You really have to take responsibility for your own learning if you want to invest in yourself. 

But it’s worth it because when you invest your own money, you are literally investing in your own future. 

If you are new to investing and not quite sure where to put your money, you really want to start by checking out the experts. I’ve mentioned a few throughout this post, but The Naked Trader is a great place to start in relation to the stock market.

Thinking about real estate, the stock market, and your risk appetite. 

Check out my guide: Investing for Beginners to get started. 

Focus on experiences, not stuff

Focussing on experiences over ‘stuff’ can sometimes seem like a generational difference more than anything else.

My parents seem to accumulate so much stuff, and they wouldn’t necessarily spend a huge amount of money on a nice dinner out catching up with friends (because you can’t keep that).

But you have to remember one day you will die and your dead like for a very long time. 

And you don’t get to keep anything. That’s pretty much it. 

When you look at it from that perspective, you begin to see that life is about creating memories; its a lived experience, so we should spend it doing the things we really love rather than acquiring material possessions. 

Travel, explore, experience: go on an adventure and see the world – work out the best ways to be happy and you will create memories and experiences that last a lifetime. 

Read more:  17 Best Ways to be Happy and Why it’s all about Mind over Matter

Invest in Yourself: Family and Friends

There’s a saying that goes something along the lines of:

“Friends are God’s way of apologizing to us for our families.”

  • Tennessee Williams

This means we can’t choose our family, but we can choose our friends. So make sure you choose good ones. 

Make an effort with family and friends

When you want to invest in yourself, you don’t just focus on the internal stuff; you need to look at the people around you. 

But that’s a two-way street. So if you truly value your friends and family, then make an effort. WE all need to work at relationships, and when those relationships are valuable, then its important to show that.

Accept your parents for who they are

You get the parents your given, but never forget that they gave you the greatest gift of all: life.

If you have a difficult relationship with your parents, it can be difficult to appreciate that and accept them for who they are. 

One of the most difficult things I have had to learn as an adult is that you cannot change people, especially your parents, and neither should you try. People will only ever change when they want to, not because someone told them to. 

It’s also essential to remember that your parents had their time; they had all the same hopes and fears as you did. They were young and beautiful once, and they did not always live their lives as parents. 

Once you can learn to accept your parents for who they are, flaws included, you’ll find that it releases you from the guilt, stresses, and anxieties of trying to make them perfect, and you can get on with living your life. 

Choose friends wisely and Filter out the toxic people in your life

They say you’re the average of the five closest people around you. Perhaps that’s the ‘Friends’ effect. 

Essentially, if cynical people surround you, it might be time to find some new, more positive friends.

And trust me on this, I speak from experience. If you find that one friend is constantly criticizing you, perhaps disguising it as a ‘joke,’ then it might be time to review how valuable that friendship is.

If any friends of yours believe that its Ok to criticize you based on how you look, where you live, what you do, or what you say, think about how much they add to your life.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s critical to have friends around you who truthfully tell you what they think because perspective is important, but that should really come from a place of love. Friends should be there to help you succeed, not to cut you down. 

And if you find a friend of yours is constantly making disparaging remarks rather than giving supportive advice, then filter them out. Life is too short for toxic people, and your priority here is to invest in yourself.

Before you get started…

Remember, you don’t always have to be productive.

This is a huge post, and that’s because deciding to invest in yourself represents a massive life choice that recognizes you want to change things. 

Please don’t attempt to do everything here; it would be impossible to find the time. But the key really is making a choice to do something different, change your life for the better, and invest your time, effort, and energy in the activities that will help you achieve that. 

Enjoy the journey.  

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